Single Life

Warning: this is a ranting post.

I have a pet peeve.  It isn’t something I experience every day but I experience far too much and it is extremely frustrating.  So I give the general public some advice: stop asking the obvious questions. 

What do I mean?  If someone doesn’t have a job, don’t keep asking when they will get a job.  If someone is single, don’t ask when they are going to get married.  And if someone doesn’t have kids, don’t ask when they are going to have kids.  Trust that if it is happening, someone will share.  

The one I am dealing with is the marriage question.  Apparently, it is expected that at 27 years old, I am suppose to be married or on that path more than I am currently.  Let me tell you something: it isn’t just a decision I can make.  It isn’t a switch I can flip and have happen.  It takes time and a working relationship- two things I don’t have very well figured out.  If I were ready to get married, I would be engaged.  Stop asking me.  All it does is make me feel like I am missing something.  It makes me feel as if something is wrong with me.  It makes me feel like I am doing something wrong with my life.

What if… just what if… I am not meant to be married?  All your asking does is make me feel like that isn’t okay.  Plenty of people never get married.  And, if I do get married someday, what does the asking do for you or me right now?

I would like to someday get married, if God has that in His plan for me.  I do wanted children someday.  However, asking me and making me feel bad about not being married or even near getting married isn’t getting me any closer.  You are not helping.  In fact, you are hurting.  So stop.  Just trust that if it happens and you are supposed to know, you will.