Warning: this is a ranting post.
I have a pet peeve.
It isn’t something I experience every day but I experience far too much
and it is extremely frustrating. So I
give the general public some advice: stop asking the obvious questions.
What do I mean? If
someone doesn’t have a job, don’t keep asking when they will get a job. If someone is single, don’t ask when they are
going to get married. And if someone
doesn’t have kids, don’t ask when they are going to have kids. Trust that if it is happening, someone will
share.
The one I am dealing with is the marriage question. Apparently, it is expected that at 27 years
old, I am suppose to be married or on that path more than I am currently. Let me tell you something: it isn’t just a
decision I can make. It isn’t a switch I
can flip and have happen. It takes time
and a working relationship- two things I don’t have very well figured out. If I were ready to get married, I would be
engaged. Stop asking me. All it does is make me feel like I am missing
something. It makes me feel as if
something is wrong with me. It makes me
feel like I am doing something wrong with my life.
What if… just what if… I am not meant to be married? All your asking does is make me feel like
that isn’t okay. Plenty of people never
get married. And, if I do get married
someday, what does the asking do for you or me right now?
I would like to someday get married, if God has that in His
plan for me. I do wanted children
someday. However, asking me and making
me feel bad about not being married or even near getting married isn’t getting
me any closer. You are not helping. In fact, you are hurting. So stop.
Just trust that if it happens and you are supposed to know, you
will.
